Tuesday, 6 January 2009

Infertility: No-one told me...

I found this on an infertility forum, and it really struck a chord with me, so I thought I'd reproduce it here, with some editing. Feel free to add comments if there are things you've experienced:

No-one told me.....

* That a fertility doctor and a baby doctor are the same thing, so every doctor's visit you're surrounded by pregnant women gushing and glowing.

* How hard it would be to log onto Facebook and every single day and look at other people's baby photos.

* That fertility drugs would make me feel simultaneously like a menopausal woman and a hormonal teenager.

* That I would be jealous of everyone who falls pregnant - particularly by mistake.

*That I'd find it extremely hard to visit pregnant friends, or friends with new babies - and that they similarly would feel awkward around me.

*That I'd cry whenever I watched films with babies in them. Seriously, all of them...

* That it can sometimes take YEARS to get pregnant. (And I expected it to happen the very first try!)

*That we could eventually become that 'infertile couple' in the corner that everyone whispers about, and tip-toes around because they are afraid that if they even mention the word 'baby' you'd have a melt-down and cry!

*That I could end up feeling like a failure.

*That I'd have more than two pregnancy tests in the house at one time... in fact, many more than two!

*I would spend years on the pill desperately trying NOT to get pregnant, and when I wanted to get pregnant it would be so hard!

* And that I would cry tears of joy over mucus (if you don't know what I'm talking about my dear male readers, I'd suggest a fantastic book by Zita West called "How to get Pregnant"!)


  1. Ah, the joys of mucus. Who would have thought that seeing how long you could stretch it without breaking it would be exciting! =)

  2. I understand all of those feelings....I resent having to walk into my OBGYN office because EVERYONE is pregnant and i cant get pregnant....it is almost a slap in the face to have to go there anymore! Hang in there for the month, i know it seems long but you and your sweetie will be together soon!

  3. OH, been there done that. Its depressing. THEN we adopted 6 kids and I NO LONGER LONG for mucus or any other thing coming out of my body LOL!




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