Tuesday, 1 July 2008

Love letters

Well, more specifically, love notes. My husband and I have this little thing where we often leave each other notes around the house. Often when he's going off on a trip he leaves me a little note by the computer saying he's thinking about me, and I do the same for him. It works particularly well as sometimes we're like ships in the night, and it just makes you smile inside when you read one, which is perfect when you haven't seen your husband properly for days!

My husband did his sim check last week, and it's sort of become a tradition that I make him sandwiches for it. So, last night, I sneaked a note into the sandwich box. He found it when he opened it for lunch, and I love the fact it was a complete surprise. It's the little things, I think, that make a difference to how you feel, and it felt lovely doing this little thing for him on what otherwise was a stressful and tiring day.

As an aside - I was sad to read a post the other day by Partner of a Pilot, in which she related the story of a friend of hers whose pilot husband has cheated on her. My heart goes out to her. What a horrible, horrible thing to deal with. If you're reading this, my dear, all the best.

I agree with Partner of a Pilot that, if you're a cheater, aviation is just the industry for you. It's so easy to get away with, and in some quarters practically encouraged. But, as I've mentioned elsewhere in this blog, I don't believe there's a pilot "type", and that somehow the men and women who do this job all fall into a category all of their own. They're all individuals, and as such can choose whether or not to cheat, just as every other person in every other job can do, too.

I know many happily married men and women who just happen to be pilots. So as I've also said elsewhere on this blog, if you're reading this and you're just embarking on a relationship with a pilot - please, don't have nightmares. Trust your instincts. If you love the person you're with, and you trust them completely, you should be fine. But if you're having doubts, and you don't feel reassured by their actions - have a serious word with them. Because I'm sure that not knowing and being in denial is worse in many ways to actually being in possession of the facts. I know I'd want to know, anyway.


  1. Haha! We do the note thing too (well more often than not, I do)! I wanted to be able to leave a comment that allows you to email me, but your comments don't ask for my email address (mine does?!)

    My friend is better off without her (now) EX... She was far too good for him.

    She's been a true star too, so strong.

  2. I agree, I trust my pilot 100 per cent, it's not always easy, knowing they are a target for a lot of women out there, but without trust, the relationship is doomed......there are just too many opportunities to lay awake at night torturing yourself about where they are and who they are with. So, if you don't have the trust it's all too easy for it to become a difficult stressful relationship. We do the note thing as well, it's nice to know that when he opens his lunch 38,000ft up, there's a part of me up there with him!!

  3. Hi. My husband is a commercial pilot. We have been married 21 years, 4 children. Early in the marriage before the airline, I had an affair. That was 17 years ago. No good excuse except I wasn't being treated very nice and he pushed me away for almost a year. I hate that I did the affair, and am sorry and he appears to have forgiven me. The problem is that he claims I am the only woman he has ever been with. We met when I was 18. So, now that he is gone a lot, I fear that he will have an affair out of revenge. Recently I found out he was watching internet porn, so this upset me. He said he would stop, but I have trouble trusting him because he can be verbally abusive to me at times. I feel he doesn't respect me at all. I have self esteem issues because I don't have much of a life except being a mom. He appears to have all this glamour, I feel like nothing and at times he makes me feel like nothing. He has called me the "C" word one too many times. I just want to trust him and know it is just my fear of him getting revenge and not him really wanting to cheat on me. I have no proof, other than the internet porn which I think is nasty. Any advice? I love him and he says he loves me. Sex is great when he is home.




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